The Secret – My Personal Experience

2018 is gradually coming to an end and I must say that I have had the time of my life this year. I have learnt so much about myself this year and I am so grateful to God.

Around this same time last year, I started writing down the goals I wanted to achieve this year. I honestly did not have any strategy in mind. I just knew what I wanted to achieve this year. December is one of my favorite months of the year apart from September. I love all the festivities and celebrations that come with the end of the year and its also a very wonderful time to sit back , reflect and take stock of the year that was and plan for the year to come.

On the 31st of December, during our family prayer time, The LORD asked us to write down how we were going to walk with Him in 2018. He said that He was going to lead, guide and direct us as we follow our personal plan for walking with Him in the new year.

Here’s my #WalkWithGod2018Objectives

  • Pray every morning
  • Read my bible at least every day
  • Spend time in worship every Saturday from 6am to 7am.

I never got round to doing the last bullet point, but I was pretty consistent with the first two and with all humility and sincerity of heart, The LORD really led and directed my path.

 

β€œBecause the Sovereign LORD helps me, I will not be disgraced. Therefore have I set my face like flint, and I know I will not be put to shame”

The level of progress and growth I made in the different areas of my life this year has left me speechless. I have gone through my journal and I still cannot believe the things that I was able to do this year. Proverbs 16 vs 3 was the catalyst for the success I experienced in my finances, the growth that I made emotionally, the capacity that I developed mentally, the initiative that I took professionally etc.

Like I mentioned before, I did not have strategy for actualizing the goals that I had written down, but as I followed through with my #WalkWithGod2018Objectives , things just began to fall into place – from the podcasts that I listened to, to the different books I read, to the different conversations that I had and the different doors that opened up for me, everything worked together for my good πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

While I am celebrating my victories, I also had my fair share of loss and pain especially in the area of relationships and friendships. I mourned the loss of friendships and relationships that had to end, painful but necessary.

I have started writing down my goals for 2019. These goals are HUGE!!!!! I know that I cannot fulfill them in my capacity as Adaeze πŸ˜€ πŸ˜€ πŸ˜€ , so I intend to employ the same method that I used this year and cant wait to share the growth and progress that I will make.

I also want someone to be encouraged with my story, because if I were to quantify effort, I know that my efforts were not commensurate with the progress and growth that I experienced this year. I owe everything to The LORD who in His infinite mercy and goodness, chose to lead and direct my path. The blessings that have come into my life by this singular experience will forever shape the total outcome of my life and I am so grateful to The LORD, like so freakingly grateful. Words cannot even begin to describe ❀ ❀ ❀

God loves you and He wants you to succeed in life with all of His heart. Do yourself a favor and believe this line with every fibre of your being. Let this line be as tangible as the ground that you walk on, as real as the air you breathe and as sure as night follows day.

Forever in His Service,

Adaeze.

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Assumptions, Assumptions & More Assumptions

In the course of the month, I had the awesome privilege of meeting a phenomenal young man that is trying to break into the Nigerian entertainment industry through music. He sees himself as a producer and proudly wears the label -“Hustler” πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

We had a very interesting conversation and I was intrigued about the assumptions this man had made about relationships in general. He told me that he had been “advised” to get a girl now that he is still hustling, because the only ladies that he will meet when he has made money will all be gold diggers!!!! πŸ˜€ πŸ˜€ πŸ˜€ ……(I have had a very good laugh just writing these lines). Honestly, these lines are cringe worthy though…..

I began to wonder where all these assumptions we make about life in general come from. I have been an astute student of making assumptions about a lot of things, but I am immensely grateful for the opportunities that I have been given to grow and learn by questioning most of these assumptions.

Back to the young man, when he finally makes money, will he meet gold diggers ? Yes he will. Will meeting gold diggers stop him from finding “true love” ? No, if he accepts responsibility for his life. You know the interesting thing about the above lines that I have just written – I have made assumptions about this young man. I don’t know if he will ever make money, I don’t know if he will ever take responsibility for his life, I don’t know if he will ever meet gold diggers. I don’t know anything about his life in its totality.

This just shows the futility of making assumptions over anything. So be open and nimble and never make assumptions about anything. If you are not sure about a line of action that you want to embark on or about a decision that you want to take, please ask questions. You might not get all the answers you want, but you can make an informed decision with what you have available as compared to groping in the dark with your assumptions……

Three hearty cheers to making the rest of 2018 assumption free πŸ˜€ πŸ˜€ πŸ˜€

 

 

 

 

 

The 6-Month Checkup

Hey Guys, long time no write. I believe everyone is doing great. I just decided to do a quick 6-month check up on them goals….as y’all know I am the self appointed chairman of the executive goal doctors club πŸ™‚ πŸ˜€ πŸ™‚

Personally, I haven’t really struggled with checking off my lists, but I have struggled with getting into a slump every now and again and putting my thoughts and feelings down on paper has helped me to maintain my focus and momentum. I have seen the importance of asking “WHY” , like “why am I doing this?” “why do I want to achieve the things that I consider important?” etc.

Honestly, the journey to greatness is boring at least 92% of the time. We are faced with doing the same things over and over and over again, that they become very redundant. But in this case, redundancy is a huge blessing because repetitions and routines are the core essence of habits and habits are what make or mar a person.

I am going to ask a few questions;

How far gone are we with ourΒ  goals?

Are we still in tune with the reason why we stated down these goals in the first place ?

Is the end picture still as compelling as it was when we first started ?

Whatever your answers are to these questions, just know that they are the correct ones and I hope you learn a few things about yourself along the way πŸ™‚

Greatness is very individualistic and the person wearing the crown in their season has earned the right to make it look anyway they want to. I earnestly urge us to keep going because we never really know how far we can go.

I have resolved to keep going at life with everything I have got and I earnestly can and cannot wait to see how far I can really go πŸ™‚

The Goal Doctor πŸ™‚ is signing out and cant wait to see y’all on the other side.

Till next time,

Adaeze.

 

 

 

 

 

Daddy’s Influence………….

I have been thinking about my Dad recently and how he has been such a huge influence on my life. I put up a post on Facebook yesterday about how my Dad initiated my sisters and I into the Sidney Sheldon Book Fan Club and how the author’s books really influenced me. My Dad gave me “Master of the Game” to read and the main female character – Kate Blackwell was a mighty BADASS!!!!!!!! She literally grew her dad’s company – Kruger-Brent Enterprises into a global conglomerate and she was just generally kicking ass πŸ˜€ πŸ˜€

As life would have it, I found my real life version of Kate Blackwell without the scheming and manipulation in Katharine Graham, the legend behind The Washington Post. That woman overcame gender bias from her own Dad, endured an abusive marriage, lived with the suicide of her husband, was instrumental to the impeachment of President Richard Nixon after the Watergate Scandal and grew The Washington Post to a Fortune 500 company.

My Dad was actually the first person that encouraged me to ever strive for anything. He told my sisters and I that he was going to buy a bicycle for any of us, that would come first, second or third in class and I decided to try. I was seven at the time. I did try and I came third in class. I will never forget the day I came back home from school and saw the green Raleigh bicycle leaning by the wall immediately I walked in through the gate. Daddy staged a surprise for me πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

That singular episode had me believing that I could do anything in my life. Whenever life tries to get to me, I take a trip down memory lane and celebrate that little win and push myself to keep going even when it gets hard.

All this is just to say that we all can be carriers and dispensers of Daddy’s Influence everywhere we go. Now is such a great time to be alive. We have tremendous power and resources to change the world one person at a time. I have started this journey, I hope we get to meet somewhere down the road.

Till I write again,

Adaeze πŸ™‚

 

 

Prince Charming Syndrome

For the past couple of weeks, I have been to privy to the world of a smart ten year old girl that I will call “E”. “E” is so talented and intelligent. She really knows how to keep herself engaged with drawing, writing stories, painting, making beads and purses and constantly fantasizing about the Bermuda Triangle πŸ˜€ πŸ™‚ .

Sometime, during the week, “E” gave me the privilege to read one of her stories. The story was about a very poor orphan who was humiliated, insulted and mocked because she was so poor that she could barely feed. One day, in a gesture of kindness to a rich eligible bachelor, her life dramatically changes and she became the envy of all the people in the village who had previously mocked and humiliated her. The bachelor is hopelessly in love with her and is prepared to move mountains to have her by his side.

I couldn’t stop myself from cringing as I read and the story just generally left a bad taste in my mouth. I couldn’t help wondering where children get all these kinds of ideas from and I took a trip down memory lane into my own life. I remembered that I also wrote these kinds of stories when I was even younger than “E” and I never forgave Hans Anderson for the story of The Little Mermaid 😦 πŸ™‚ . On the flip side, I couldn’t help myself from being taken in by the naivete of childhood and the sweet innocence and optimism that children bring.

I cringed while reading “E”‘s story because I now know that Prince Charming doesn’t exist and even if he does, he is tied up with issues in his life where he needs a Princess Charming to come and save him and that makes him unavailable to come and save the proverbial damsel in distress.

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I have resolved to challenge “E” to write a story about another girl doing awesome things like saving her village from the clutches of a tyrannical evil king. I will encourage “E” to imagine herself as the girl in her story and give her permission to be all she can be. Or she could write another story where another another girl leads an expedition to the Bermuda Triangle and helps the world solve one of its greatest mysteries πŸ™‚ .

Till next time,

Adaeze.

 

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Growing Organically in a Digital Age

I have been wondering if its actually possible to grow a business or anything at all organically in this digital age. Technology has really improved the quality of life we have access to. I am constantly amazed at how small the world has become in terms of trade, ideologies and movements etc. At the same time, I cant help wondering if its possible to have real tangible growth. I wonder because, I know that growth is slow, but tangible.

I vividly remember when I turned 7 and my milestone was being able to do the button on the back of my dress by myself. Like my little hands could reach the button and I did it by myself without Mummy’s help πŸ™‚ and without looking into the mirror πŸ™‚ . I actually felt like a grown up πŸ™‚

I am trying to answer some questions with thisΒ  today and hopefully, I will find my answers by the time I am done; is it possible to grow organically in this digital age without actually missing out ?

I do have plans to grow a business in the future and I am kinda anxious. Will my business be able to thrive in this digital age in terms of tangible growth that results in excellent customer retention and huge profits? How will I able to welcome time and work with her to allow the business grow to a place that her growth is actually tangible? I do not have the answers just yet and I believe that I will figure it out as I get along.

I came across an article on Inc.com about MailChimp and the ideologies behind their business and I started to work on my approach – I will just keep working on myself to live from my core because I believe that the business I’ll birth is an extension of myself, use the available technology to streamline my products and service to meet the needs of my target market, keep myself abreast with all the technological advancements and position myself strategically to ride the next big digital wave that comes sweeping in.

I will still keep adding to my arsenal as I birth my business and as I keep growing.

Till next time………

 

 

shhhhhhhh!!!!…….Sex

As I started to get older, I began to wonder why there was a lot of secrecy around sex…..like it was something to be afraid and ashamed of. My curiosity was really piqued because sex is a primal need. Its as basic as eating and going to the toilet and I really never understood what the fuss was all about. Add religion to that and its a different ball game.Β This brings the conversation that I had with some Christians two weeks ago. I posed these questions :

  • Why is something as basic and primal as sex was treated with so much shame, secrecy and guilt ?
  • Why do men and women who have kept themselves for sex until in a marriage still feel shame and guilt ?
  • If marriage was supposed to be the safe place to have sex without guilt and shame, why were these people feeling guilt and shame ?

The answer I got to my questions were “Its because sex is bad” 😦 😦

Sex is not something that is discussed enough in our communities. We grow up making all kinds of assumptions about it and these assumptions inform the decisions and choices we make on a daily basis. Sex is not discussed enough in our homes, in our churches and in our institutions of learning. I am of the opinion that if sex is discussed enough and spoken about honestly, my generation and the next generation will be better equipped to make better choices.

 

let’s talk about sex πŸ˜€

I have started making better informed choices about sex and my holistic approach has brought me a lot of personal freedom. Questioning my assumptions has opened me to a new way of thinking and living and I am so grateful. I believe that change can only be tangible when we begin to question assumptions, think differently and live differently.

I am putting one foot in front of the other, what are you waiting for ?

Forever in His Service,

Adaeze.

JESUS & I

I have had a really interesting relationship with Jesus and I still do. I am constantly learning to question all these assumptions I have had about God, Christianity and Faith. In the course of questioning, I have discovered so many truths and above all freedom. Knowing that God is really interested in having a relationship with me and He constantly woos me is so mind blowing….. like on some days I find it so hard to take it all in, on other days I am on an all time high πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚Β  “I’ll be getting my daily Jesus high”Β Β 

This beautiful relationship that I am having with Jesus cannot be explained, it just has to be experienced. My life has taken a completely different turn and I know without a shadow of a doubt that, doing life with Jesus is the way life should be. I couldn’t have had it any other way πŸ™‚

Jesus is the best thing that can happen to anybody πŸ™‚ . Looking at my life, where I have been, where I am now and where I am going, I can only say that I am a product of the love of Jesus. This song by Kim Walker-Smith Waste It All pretty sums up the posture of my heart towards Jesus.

It is my heart’s desire that you go on a journey and discover Jesus for yourself πŸ˜‰ . Trust me , when I say nothing trumps that experience.

Forever in His Service,

Adaeze.

Conquering My Personal Demons :-)

Seriously, I do not know where to start with this post….I do hope I will not be all over the place in trying to put down my thoughts coherently.

OK so let me start with a little background story, I was romantically involved with a guy for 8 years and in a series of events beyond our control, our relationship ended. I had a very bad break up phase because I didn’t know how to handle the emotions I was going through at the time. I just did what I knew how to do – I shoved my emotions aside and ran away from facing what I was really going through.

There was this fear that nagged me consistently: “I somehow wouldn’t be able to go on if I saw his wedding pictures on Facebook 😦 ” In typical Adaeze fashion, I went on a Facebook hiatus for a couple of years. Then one day, my personal fears came visiting. She came invited into my house and there was no running away anymore. I had to face her squarely and not run away anymore.

Interestingly, I have lived through what I thought was the hardest moment of my life. I am in a better place emotionally and mentally and I have so much to be thankful for. Truth is, in a lot of ways, I am not so afraid anymore. After that incident, I mentally began to go through everything that I was literally afraid of, like I thought through those circumstances and determined my perspective and approach and I have literally held freedom in my hands πŸ™‚ πŸ˜‰

Today, I just want you to know that you are not alone and really believe that what doesn’t kill you, really makes you stronger in ways that you have not even begun to imagine. Do not run away anymore from facing those issues, confront them and experience freedom on the other side πŸ™‚

GOD HAS GOT YOU πŸ™‚

Forever in His Service,

Adaeze.

 

 

 

Look Within

I was meditating on the account of creation found in Genesis 1 and 2 and I made a very exciting discovery; God put in man the very essence of who He is via His Spirit. This means that the human spirit is the exact replication of the spirit of God. The human spirit is eternal, limitless, indomitable and unconquerable. I was so stoked because for a while now, I have been studying people I consider to be great and I want to model my life after them.

During my study, I kept noticing a certain parallel with the way they approached life, the way they thought through life and they all had this ideology of creating the kind of life they wanted for themselves on their own terms.

“Life is not about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.” – George Bernard Shaw

I came across this quote and it resonated with my discoveries. You know how we waste our lives on an aimless journey to find ourselves, when the very things we are looking for are just within our reach, if we would only take the time to look within and do the work necessary.

Honestly, taking the time to create yourself is hard and painful but worth every dime. I have made up my mind to create the kind of life I want for myself on my own terms and I am not going to apologize for that. I urge you to do the same. Look within yourself and create the person you want to be. God has so generously given of Himself that we have no excuse……

LETS BE ABOUT THAT LIFE!!!!!

Forever in His Service,

Adaeze.